The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed. –Carl Jung
Those of you who know me best, may know by now that I have experienced a rather significant change in the way I think about the world around me. I used to spend large chunks of time lamenting this situation or that possibility or why a particular person didn’t seem to like me. This may come as a shock to some of you but one of my biggest concerns was centered around why I could not attract and retain any friends.
Oh, I would meet people, get to know them and maybe even become friends. But somewhere along the line things would just fall apart and I would end up feeling hurt. So, I basically worked myself into a place where I felt that friendships were things that needed testing and in the end I would prove myself correct about my “uncertainty” regarding what my friend really thought of me.
The principle that I did not understand at that time was what is often referred to as reciprocity. The idea that whatever we “give” away is what we “get” in return was something that I had heard of but never really thought much about. I mean, after all, I wasn’t the one who was hurting me. It was him or her. I wasn’t giving them anything but my friendship yet I was getting a lot of pain and rejection back. It just didn’t seem to make any sense.
As I began taking the time to “step back” and review my life from a broader perspective, I realized that this principle was, in fact, constantly at work. Once I realized that what I was really “giving” away was a lack of trust and a belief that I would ultimately be hurt, then it made perfect sense why that was EXACTLY what I would get back. Once I realized what I was creating for myself, not only was it easy to change, it actually seemed silly not to change it.
So what did I change? Simply put, I made an internal decision to meet each and every one of my friends exactly where they are in their lives. I acknowledge that each is on his or her own unique path. I respect and accept each of them for every decision they have made or will make. I look for what I can learn from each of them. And above all else, I love and accept each one unconditionally.
What do I get in return? All of the above and a growing list of close friends.
Today I challenge you to take that step back and carefully review what you are giving away in your life. Is it what you want back? Are you getting something back that you don’t want? If so, seek out where you are giving it away. It may not be obvious to you at first, but it is there.
Ferrea said,
April 15, 2007 at 3:32 pm
I feel strongly with you but is it not just give freely without expecting returns?
Roy said,
April 15, 2007 at 4:41 pm
Great Post…
I like the part that says your friends each have their own path…
Give them this free report that I got, an exclusive interview with Bob Proctor, not release in the market yet…
http://www.law-of-attractions.com/rights
Lady_Nightwater said,
April 15, 2007 at 9:02 pm
I have exactly the same issue. I haven’t been able to figure out why I am unable to form deep relationships with friends. I guess I am going to have to learn as much as possible about the law of attraction. Thanks
Clyde said,
April 16, 2007 at 1:29 am
Hi Ferrea,
I think the point that I’m making here is that whatever we are focusing on is what we will draw to ourselves via Law of Attraction.
If I focus on holding back because I think I may be hurt, then the hurt is what will ultimately show up in my experience. If, on the other hand, I focus on loving and accepting everyone who comes into my experience, then Law of Attraction will bring people to me who love and accept those around them and I will be one of those being loved and accepted.
Clyde
Clyde said,
April 16, 2007 at 1:36 am
Hi Roy,
Thanks for you feedback. It’s true that we can easily forget that those around us have their own paths. I think the best thing I ever heard that helps me remember this is a quote that says something like “just because someone is not on the same path as you doesn’t mean he or she is lost”.
Clyde
Clyde said,
April 16, 2007 at 1:39 am
Hello Lady_Nightwater,
Since it seems you are new to Law of Attraction, I would recommend a book entitled, The Power of Intention by Dr. Wayne Dyer, as an excellent place to start. Dr. Dyer has a great way of relating personal experience to his writings that make the principles seem very relevant.
Clyde
Odessaliz said,
May 3, 2007 at 11:53 am
OSCIBANT: The process of maintaining balance while constantly moviing forward at the correct speed, in the right direction towards a set goal.
I love words.
Ferrea said,
May 9, 2007 at 1:52 pm
Is that so? U mean basically i have to focus on myself on loving and accepting everyone i meet, Right?
http://www.law-of-attractions.com/freereport.pdf